Keep a good relationship

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Everyone cannot be always perfect. Even though they know what an appropriate behaviour in terms of human relations is, they cannot do that in all the times. Sometimes they behave in not proper way. It's natural. But, I think that if they continue to do, or if they are lack of consciousness, they will lose the trust on themselves from people around them.

Recently, I was asked to introduce a person to my friends. The person is a kind of a junior of my university. Thankfully, my friend welcomed to talk to the person. So, I sent a message to my friend ccing the person. I hoped that the encounter between them would be fruitful.

Since connecting them, 3 weeks has passed. The person hasn't said anything to me. I don't know in other country, but in Japan it would be common that the person should show its gratitude with me in this case. It's because the person was able to talk with someone with whom the person was keen on having conversation.

Frankly speaking, I expected some message from the person because introducing someone to my network has a risk to lose a trust between people from my network and me. Moreover, if the person has some insight from my friend, it is great that the person thanks to me. But no message has got to me. From my perspective, I don't wanna force the person to appreciate my introduction.

But, yesterday, I met the person accidentally in a library. So, I asked "you did talk to my friend, didn't you? How was that?" The person responded like "that was nice and I felt sympathy with your friend because we have a same interest in social issue."

Okay, I was waiting for the next word - appreciation. But, unfortunately no. I gave a chance to the person to say it by starting talking about that. The response shows that the person doesn't have a different mind from me. Hmm...

Recently, I've experienced such a case twice. I think that if you get an insight, moreover, and an opportunity to do something from a person that you reached by your friend's network, you need to appreciate for your friends to connect you with his/her network.